a friend of mine posted a comment asking for further explanation on why i call yvonne "tim". he said that was an interesting custom and i would agree.

everything here is interesting in terms of how you handle women. before i came here i thought women were more oppressed than they actually are. men are certainly considered to be of more worth than women here but the whole covering and stuff isn't exactly like i thougt it was. there is a line to be drawn between oppression and protection and it is very difficult to figure out where that line belongs.
the reason i call yvonne "tim" is because i don't want other men to know anything about my wife. i don't want her to dress provactively (like she would anyway... but what may not be provacative in our minds my be down right "askin' for it" in their minds) for the sake of my honor but more importantly because she is mine and i don't want anyone else to look at her or think of her in that type of way. to know her name is to know too much.

a good example is what i told single guys in america... don't look at women in a dirty way for you own mind's sake but also because your wife is out there right now and how do you feel to know that guys are scoping your future wife out inappropriately.

so anyways... yvonne is my wife and we have our special relationship that no else is allowed in on. now like i said... there is that line of a putting down type of oppression that is a part of all of this but where that line belongs i still don't know. i don't want them to even know yvonne's name because that is inappropriate to some degree because i am letting men in on our relationship. it's wierd... i don't agree with it because the oppression kicks in when you deny identity to the woman but at the same time i don't want these guys to know her or to think about her. now all that changes a little once you become friends with another couple... then we can all know each other.

oh yeah... also calling yvonne "mother of Landon" would be very appropriate as well because she is honored and finds her honor in the fact that she provided me with a son. now if we had a girl at first it would not be applicable. for example calling her "mother of kara" would not be done here. Correction... a friend of ours here who has a girl says that she is referred to as the mother of her daughter's name... so i offer this as new info that i was not aware of.

still chewing on this one.
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